Blonde vs. Redhead

by Marcie on January 23, 2010 · 7 comments

From Chicago Correspondent Marcie…

So, I’ve very recently taken the plunge and changed my blonde locks to red. I decided to do this because of a wig I wore for a costume for Halloween. Everyone mentioned how it looked so good on me so I brought the wig over to a salon to see what some hairstylists would say. They all loved the look of it and convinced me it would be a process, but it could be done in one day. I’ve never been anything but a blonde. I did this not only for a change of my look but because I also wanted to see how men perceived me as a redhead versus a blonde.

Don’t get me wrong, being a blonde has its perks. I could easily get away with “acting” dumb to cops and judges to get out of a ticket, to mechanics to help dumb-ol’ me out in changing wiper blades, tires, windshield sprayers, etc., to men seeing me as “helpless” and doing whatever I needed them to do, and to merchants in getting more of a discount when I saw something on the 70%-off rack when it wasn’t on sale.

In my opinion, blondes are perceived by both men and women as fun-loving, cheery, upbeat, positive, and non-threatening people. I think this might all stem from a Barbie doll being every little girl’s ideal of “beauty.”  Whatever it is, I used my blondeness to its full advantage.

But being a blonde also had its downside. I often felt that men never took me seriously and that I always had to fight to make it known I have a brain. Women often put me down before getting to know me. I also believe my professional life sometimes suffered from ill-conceived misperceptions of aptitude, all because I was a blonde. And I concluded that men think blondes are bimbos they like to bed but not necessarily have a relationship with or take home to mom.

This realization made me decide to try this social experiment of blondes vs. reds, if you will. After having my hair done I went straight out to a bar to test my theory. I definitely got the ― what I call ― “obvious” stares. Not the ones where they just slyly sideways-glance at you so you don’t notice them checking you out. No, these stares were full-on, unabashed, straight-into-my-eyes stares ― and from seven different men! Before, as a blonde, I was hard-pressed to get these obvious stares, and from so many men in one night! I was constantly told I was “intimidating” to men, so I would barely get men who could not only look at me but keep my gaze. Friends would have to tell me when they caught a guy checking me out because I could hardly see when guys were doing it.

Is this all because redheads are perceived as less intimidating and “warmer” to talk to?  Could it be that the simple act of changing my hair color would change how men perceive me? Or was this night a fluke? I’ll update you in a future article…so don’t touch that dial!

Marcie as Fabulous Redhead!

Marcie as Fabulous Redhead!

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Amy January 23, 2010 at 8:29 am

Blonde vs. redhead — I can’t decide! I did the switch from blonde to red back to blonde over the last two years, and now I miss my red. I definitely got the “I have a thing for redheads” comments — and they seemed to come from the types of guys I like to date — smart, interesting, creative. Here in the South, blonde is what turns the most heads, but I’m not sure it turns the heads I’m looking for. Naturally I tend to fall somewhere in the middle (with some silver stuff sprinkled in nowadays) — but why shouldn’t we girls experiment a little bit?

KJ January 23, 2010 at 10:36 am

Not only do you look great, but the way you felt about this change showed that night. You felt sexy as hell, and were sparkling with it!

Shari January 25, 2010 at 5:28 pm

Interesting. I went “red” years ago and what I learned was it was less about my hair color, and more about the places I chose to hang out at. Men with any sort of intelligence know hair color has no direct connection to IQ. Betty Boop had black hair, and Marilyn Monroe was a brunette most of her life.
All I gotta say is Sex in the City better move over, Marcie is here!!

sallaboutme February 3, 2010 at 3:41 pm

I was always a dirty blonde growing up, but at some point in my mid-twenties I turned red. I’m a full-blown redhead now. Naturally (no joke, it’s kinda weird). I definitely love being a redhead more now, and think redheads actually have more fun! Blondes are a dime a dozen, but redheads are very rare and get noticed. Just remember two of my favorite redhead quotes:

“You can sleep with a blonde, you can sleep with a brunette, but you’ll never get any sleep with a redhead.”

“Gentlemen may prefer blondes, but it takes a real man to handle a redhead.”

Dante A. Bacani April 8, 2010 at 3:33 pm

What, don’t I get a “photographer” credit?!? Isn’t this the shot I took on the iPhone at Mary R.’s place?

Anyway, I think my preference on the “blonde v. redhead” issue is a matter of public record — let’s just say that “Red Headed Woman” by Bruce Springsteen is one of my favorite tunes — but I married a brunette, so go figure. :-)

Gman March 13, 2013 at 8:38 pm

I love redheads there the most beautiful and majestic hair type. I have black hair but my girlfriend has red hair and I don’t think I could ever date a blonde again.

Marcie March 13, 2013 at 9:57 pm

Hey, thanks, Gman. After being a redhead for nearly 4 years, I was told to go back to blonde because the color better suited my skin tone. They were right, and yeah, I’m back to feeling sometimes like a dime a dozen, but as a nearly six-foot blonde, I rock it well and am never a wallflower or just one of the “blondes”. I may have yellow hair, but red runs deep in my soul.

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